Handling Disappointment

Handling disappointments is an expectation when you are an entrepreneur.  You are anticipating highs and lows while on the journey.

What I am finding really difficult to deal with are the disappointments from my day job or as I like to call it, “my grant money for my business job”.  Currently, I am a HR Professional by day and a colors and beauty potion mixologist by night. Recently, my HR Team was informed that we would be expanding with 3 additional positions.  So, I did my due diligence and reviewed what I thought were the job descriptions, and decided to throw my name in the hat. 

Momma-Rae, Photograph by Ariel Photography

First, you must understand that I am very calculated on what moves I make with my career.  Every single position that I have obtained, from Administrative Assistant to Help Desk Technician, to Software Tester were all calculated moves made and decided by yours’s truly.  So, when I decided to throw my name in the hat for one of the new positions, I was thinking for sure. I’ve got this one. I was also thinking how great it would be to have the boost in salary and the additional funds for Ribbons (some extra grant money) …I allowed myself to imagine all the possibilities the money could bring. FINALLY! I could get the bottles printed, improve our overall packaging, and so much more.

In the end, I was told that I didn’t qualify for the promotion, “that the job was a high-level position” …Talk about a SLAP in the face – OUCH!!!!.  I was a little stunned, thinking, “I could do this damn job if given the opportunity…”.  Just so that you guys know, I work hard at my job.  I am one person doing a job that 2-3 people were previously doing.

One side of me says, “If they don’t see your ability and your potential and don’t want to present the opportunity then this is their loss. Continue to move like you know your greatness.”  I think what really helped me was the Audible that I recently finished by Sophia Chang, “Baddest Bitch in the Room.” This one set my soul on fire. The author’s story is amazing and the view she allows you to see of her perseverance is endearing.  I don’t know why or even how this Audible fell in my lap, but the timing was so perfect.  At the end of the Audible, Sophia talks to the listener and reminds you that “you are a warrior walking your walk and fighting your fight.”  She reminds you to remember that no matter what, “you are the Baddest Bitch in the Room” …I JUST LOVE IT!!!! 

So my mind quickly talked me down off the ledge and I said to myself, “Rae, it just wasn’t for you. A new position means a new commitment of your energy and time and they don’t deserve it.  You are where you need to be to go where you need to go…” See, I told myself that “Ribbons Cosmetics was going to be my next employer.”  This is not to say that I wouldn’t accept a new position to put some extra grant funds into the business, just that I was reminded of my commitment to my company, Ribbons Cosmetics. 

Every disappointment has a silver lining if we can just look at the glass as half full instead of half empty.  Time to roll up my sleeves; put on my running shoes, and get moving.  Disappointments are not setbacks, but opportunities for growth. 

Creatively Yours,

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